Recently I came across this quote “Everybody isn’t your friend. Just because they hang around you and laugh with you doesn’t mean they’re for you. Just because they say they have your back, doesn’t mean they won’t stab you in it. People pretend well. Jealously sometimes doesn’t live far. So know your circle. At the end of the day, real situations expose fake people, so pay attention.”(Anonymous) As I sat there, reading this quote, over and over it reminded me so much of certain situations I have personally lived through in my life.
Women are very jealous of each other. We envy each other so bad and unfortunately all of us are guilty. We hang out with a certain circle because we want a certain status, dress a certain way to gain a certain reputation, or simply buy things we cannot afford to keep up with our “friends”. Why do we do this? The answer; everybody isn’t your friend. True friends don’t care about your status, reputation, or clothes.
There are three types of friends: the old friend, the older friend, and the secondhand friend. I am lucky to have all three. True friendships are few and far between. When you find a true friend everything clicks. You get each other and your circle becomes true. I am very blessed to not only be able to say I have all three types of friends but we all are best friends.
Meg is my old friend. No matter where life takes us we will always have a special bond. She is the little sister I never had. We can sit hours upon hours and solve the world’s problems or we can go two weeks without seeing each other and pick up right where we left off. She always looks to me for advice and I love being her crying shoulder.
Brooke is my older friend. There are no words good enough to describe our friendship. From the moment we made eye contact in microbiology, we knew we would be best friends forever. There has never been a day or a time that I have needed Brooke that she hasn’t been there. No matter what she always picks me up when I am down and has helped me through countless experience. We will be the 90 year old women still laughing until we cry in our wheelchairs in the nursing home.
Kelli is my secondhand friend. I am so thankful to have met her through Brooke. She makes me want to be a better woman. She is always there to tell me I am ok and help figure life out. She helps me understand what true friendships are about. Through bad breakups, crying spells, growing in faith, or just needing someone to talk to she has always been there.
These three women are the epitome of best friends. Our circle is complete and we are content. We call it our circle because it is round and has no end. We never try to compete with each other. We always have each other’s back. But most of all we are there for each other. Through running mascara, bad hair days, heels breaking, breakups, confusing boys, lousy jobs, new careers, new marriages, new relationships, road-trips, love sprinkles, eating too many calories, laughing until we cry, and wasted money we are truly best friends and I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Friends come and go but best friends are there for a life time. This is so true especially when it come to hard times. Hard times will always reveal true friends. Meg, Brooke Kelli, and I have all been through a lot together. They have helped me live life and understand the meaning of friendships that can’t be broken. I have lost friends but life is too short to spend it with people who try to bring you down or compete with you. When a true friendship is real, it is effortless. With that said I have learned that sometimes you have to let people go. Some people will be in your life forever… and some won’t.
So here’s to the crap we talk, the guys we stalk, the way we shop, laughs we can’t stop, the gossip we spill, the looks that could kill. We’ll stay together. Because we are best friends forever.