Growing up we were all taught to mind our own business. Putting our nose in someone else’s business usually ends up with trouble or rumors being started for no reason. How many times have you heard something about yourself that made you laugh because it was so far from the truth? How many times have your feelings gotten hurt because someone said something about you or was completely hateful?
All of us are guilty of listening to others talk about people. We are also guilty of spreading things that could potentially not be true. In life we are so caught up with other people’s lives. Who so and so is dating? Who got this job? Who bought this house? Who is doing things they aren’t supposed to be doing? Why? Why do we care so much about what other people are doing and why do we talk about people?
Jealously can be an awful big part of the reaction we have to what we hear and or say about others. Many times we get so caught up with wanting what others have that we will do just about anything to make that person look bad. Unfortunately, we all are guilty of wanting other people to look bad do to our own jealously or insecurities.
Everything that happens in life leads to an outcome. Whether it is a happy outcome or a sad outcome, everything leads somewhere. Divorce happens, children rebel, spouses cheat, and breakups… you name it they all lead to some sort of outcome. However, these outcomes {in other people’s lives} are not ours to judge. We do not have the right to judge anyone based on his or her circumstances. Not everyone is given the same path. This is done for a reason. Not all of us could handle the same life paths. Many of us judge others so quickly but we have yet to walk a mile in their shoes.
I am guilty of judging other people based on decisions they make. But I am quickly reminded not all of our closets are clear of skeletons. We love to point out other people’s flaws and bad judgments but we forget to sweep our own doorstep clean first. Why do we do this? Why do we like other people to fail or face trial? Jealously. If someone is doing something that gives us a reason to gossip, it is so easy to judge or talk bad about him or her.
We all need to remember our hands aren’t always clean. We all make mistakes. Life happens and there is nothing we can do about. However, we can chose to lift each other up instead of bashing or putting each other down. There are so many negatives in life that we could use a little more positivity. Chose to empower each other. It will make the world a better place.
“It’s always the ones with the dirty hands pointing the fingers.”- Sonya Teclai