The Courage To Let Go

If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative. Know when to close the account. – Christine Williams

 Life is all about the “KNOW”. We all want to know everything about everything. However, knowing when to let go is a subject many of us know nothing about or we know about and ignore it. 

Have you ever had a hang nail? For some reason it would not let go. It caused pain and caused you to not be able to perform to your best ability, but the second you got rid of it there was instant relief. Life can be the same way. Many times we allow situations or people hang on in our life longer than we should.  It is ok to have a time limit for the presence of some people in your life.

So many times we get caught up in the thought that letting go means we are simply giving up. This is definitely not the case. It simply means you have finally accepted that some things just are not meant to be, some people no longer belong in your life and some situations are better when you remove yourself.

We all pray for God to show us what path we need to take or what decisions we need to make. More often than not we choose to ignore God when He says walk away or close a particular chapter in our book. Why? Why do we not listen to God? Why do we ignore what He says? We are simply scared to let go of the comfort zone we live in and scared of letting go of the things we know. The saying goes “opportunity is right on the other side of fear”. Sometimes we have to let go of what we are used to and take the chance on the opportunity that lies ahead. The funny thing about life is 95% of our problems come from situations we can do NOTHING about. After all that… we still hang on to things we simply cannot change.

If your husband or wife hurts you or leaves you. You cannot change the situation or them. If your children completely rebel against everything you have taught them. You cannot stop them. If your family completely falls apart. You cannot change it. All you can do is pray and listen to what God wants you to do with each particular situation. Sometimes trying to fix it on your own can make it worse.

Your spouse. The day you said “I Do”, you knew what type of person they were. You cannot change a person. People do not change, they alter. The may seem like they have changed but true character always comes out at one point or another.  

Your children. Children are a blessing from the Lord. No matter what happens they will always be your children.  I do not have children, but one day I hope to.  I can only pray that my children turn out to be the best they can be. There is only so much a parent can do. Instill the beliefs and morals of your family, but never forget you cannot live their lives for them. Pray daily that they remember what you taught them and leave the rest to God.

Your family. We cannot pick them. So people say unfortunately, but I say thank goodness. Because even if we could pick our family there would still be problems that would arise. The decisions that family members make are a direct reflection of them not you. We must do our part and pray that what we do is enough. Pray daily that bad situations will be resolved or that you have a chance to come a peace with what cannot be changed.

If a thought, situation or person is bringing you more misery or hurt than peace, let it or them go. How can you possibly be the best you are meant to be if you lack joy and peace? The main thing about having control of your life is finding who you are. Once you find yourself you will quickly realize how many people you will lose. We may lose people in our life because they no longer fit in our lives… and that is ok. Every experience, lesson and journey is all a part of God’s divine plan. Let go and let God.


Charm is deceptive and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praise. –Proverbs 31:30

Published by Lacie

Lacie Ross is the director for the Miss Hahira Honeybee Pageant held annually in Hahira, Georgia. Among many titles, Lacie was Miss Georgia United States 2013 and Miss Georgia South 2013 where she went on to place in the top 15 at Miss Georgia USA. She has judged, directed, and competed in multiple pageants. Lacie even appeared on TLC’s “Here comes Honey Boo Boo” as a celebrity judge. Mrs. Ross is a graduate of Valdosta State University with a Bachelor of Business Administration and a Minor in Human Resources. She also holds an Associates in Science from Georgia Military College. Lacie is very active in the community where she has held positions as a L.A.M.P homeless shelter mentor, Second Harvest of South Georgia spokesperson, team member with the Georgia Special Olympics, ambassador for People Water, committee member for the Hahira Honeybee festival, among many others. She is currently on the board of directors and choreographer for the Miss Georgia South Pageant. Lacie is happily married to her husband, Nick, who she met on an airplane coming home from Miss United States. The Rosses have three beautiful children, Atticus, Ander, and Addleigh Elaine and reside in Highland, Michigan. A quote by Audrey Hepburn is one Mrs. Ross lives by “As you grow older, you will learn you have two hands. One for helping yourself, the other for helping others.”

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