If the past calls…

Time and time again I have been talking with my girlfriends and this particular question always comes up.. “Why can’t we let go of our past”? Of course as women we all think we have the world figured out and the answers to everything. But have you ever really sat and wondered why we can’t let the past go?

We have all experienced a bad break up. You fight, you breakup, you reconcile, you get back together, and guess what the cycle starts over. But why do we keep fighting to stay in the past? Why can’t we close that chapter of our lives and start a new one? Reliving the past is like putting on yesterday’s dirty underwear again today.

For a year I lived in the past. I couldn’t let it go. I wanted what I used to have but I also wanted what was to come. I would keep dwelling on it and hang on to that little hope that things were going to change. But I quickly learned, people do not change… they alter. Getting over a painful experience is like the monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move on.(C.S. Lewis) This quote is so true. If you don’t let go of the one you are currently hanging from, you will never make any progress.

You know why it’s so hard for us to be happy? It’s because we refuse to let go of what makes us sad. You see your old boyfriend with someone new and you hold on to what you used to have. But did you ever stop and think, if he was worth keeping you would still have him? You didn’t make the team and hold a grudge against a friend who did, but did you condition hard enough to make it? We hold on to so many bad things in the past that we are missing what God has waiting for us ahead.

Gossip is the best form of clinging to the past. We spend so much time worrying about what someone did yesterday or who is dating who or who did this to that, instead we should look to tomorrow. Every second becomes the past. You can’t change it. You can’t relive it. You have to watch it become apart of your past and added to yesterday’s chapter in the book we call “Life”.

Many people think that holding on is a sign of strength. In my opinion being strong and brave enough to let go shows much more strength. Life is so sacred and we waste so much of it trying to control situations in the past that we can’t change. Eventually we have to wake up a realize that nothing can become what it needs to be until we are willing to let go of what used to be. The best thing about the past is that is shows what we don’t want to bring to our future.

I used to think my life was right where it was supposed to be. Until one day, God came in and flipped my life upside down. Here I am a husband, a house, a new state, gained a new family, and my walk with Christ is stronger than it has ever been.  But I would have missed all of God’s blessing if I would have kept clinging to the past.

When the past call. Let it go to voicemail. It has nothing new to say.


Published by Lacie

Lacie Ross is the director for the Miss Hahira Honeybee Pageant held annually in Hahira, Georgia. Among many titles, Lacie was Miss Georgia United States 2013 and Miss Georgia South 2013 where she went on to place in the top 15 at Miss Georgia USA. She has judged, directed, and competed in multiple pageants. Lacie even appeared on TLC’s “Here comes Honey Boo Boo” as a celebrity judge. Mrs. Ross is a graduate of Valdosta State University with a Bachelor of Business Administration and a Minor in Human Resources. She also holds an Associates in Science from Georgia Military College. Lacie is very active in the community where she has held positions as a L.A.M.P homeless shelter mentor, Second Harvest of South Georgia spokesperson, team member with the Georgia Special Olympics, ambassador for People Water, committee member for the Hahira Honeybee festival, among many others. She is currently on the board of directors and choreographer for the Miss Georgia South Pageant. Lacie is happily married to her husband, Nick, who she met on an airplane coming home from Miss United States. The Rosses have three beautiful children, Atticus, Ander, and Addleigh Elaine and reside in Highland, Michigan. A quote by Audrey Hepburn is one Mrs. Ross lives by “As you grow older, you will learn you have two hands. One for helping yourself, the other for helping others.”

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