Yes my husband still opens the door for me. It’s not weird; it’s his little way of showing me how important I am to him. I have seen many marriages fail in my lifetime. Divorce is one of the most heart wrenching experiences for anyone to experience. Marriage is a sacred bond between three people: God, the husband, and the wife. These three people are the only people that should ever be a part of a marriage. When you start adding or subtracting; marriages begin to weaken.
A year ago, I was on a plane home when God put Nick in the seat next to me. A month later we began dating and here we are a year and a half later: married, home owners, pet parents, and still dating. We started dating and never stopped. Nick is the definition of a loving, faithful, Godly husband. I could not have molded a man better to spend the rest of my life with. Yes we have only been married three months, but since June 28 we vowed to never stop dating.
Growing with your husband is one of the benefits God gives to you as a wife. Your husband is your soul mate, confidant, friend, and rock; he is not just your roommate. Many people have told me “marriage is pointless, it never last anyways” or “once the honeymoon stage is over its back to reality”. Every time I hear someone say these, my heart breaks. I never want my husband to feel this way. Nick and I are truly best friends. We laugh together, we cry together, but most of all we grow together as a couple.
We are in this marriage together. Nothing is separate. We promised each other we would always keep the “spark” alive. I can honestly sit here and say after a year, I still get butterflies when he walks in the room, his smile melts my heart, and I love him more today than I did yesterday, but less than I will tomorrow. Almost on a daily basis I get asked “how do you make your marriage work being 13 hours apart”? There is one simple answer. I never stopped dating my husband.
We are that couple that makes people sick in the grocery store, because we hold hands and are giggly. Am I ashamed? Absolutely not! I married my husband to date him. On June 28, 2014, I became his legal girlfriend for the rest of my life. No one else gets to date my husband. We hold hands riding in the car, when we hike, when we are on the couch watching TV, shopping.. Every chance I get, I hold my husband’s hand. There is something in this little action that bonds us two together.
Before we got engaged we made a “date jar”. We thought up several different date night ideas, typed them on a piece of paper, folded them, and put them in the jar. Whenever we couldn’t think of something to do, we would pull a “date idea” out of the jar. Not all dates were extravagant, because we love movie dates at home. This jar gives great ideas, that we thought of together, to do as a couple and every time we do one of those ideas it reminds us of when we really were dating.
Dating my husband makes me fall more in love with him every day. I send sappy love cards to him and he sends me flowers every three-four weeks, just to remind one another how lucky, blessed, and thankful we are for each other. He opens the door and kisses me in public, but never worries about who sees or what anyone thinks because in his eyes I am the only one that matters. People never believe me or want to understand why dating your spouse is so important. The reasoning for this disbelief is that I have only been married three months, but my marriage is strong and exciting because we never stopped dating.
Every relationship is unique in its own way. I am no marriage counselor, but marriages are not just a name change and a piece of paper, it is a gift from God. Never take your marriage for granted. Some are not fortunate enough to experience it. Marriage is work but being with your husband for the rest of your life is worth every minute.