Misery… and it loves company!

Why do we consume so much of our life worrying about what others are doing?  The answer to this: We are HUMANS! People are so caught up in other’s lives because of one simple reason, misery. Sadly, misery loves company. Some live their lives vicariously by being a burden or bringing someone else down. They usually do this with the intent to build their own self up. But newsflash, it deepens the issue and makes the situation worse. We (yes, including me) are all guilty. Whether we want to be or not, we are guilty. We stay concerned with who is dating who, who said this, who wore this, who did this or that, but why? Why does it matter? Misery and it loves company.

We all want perfect lives. We want the best cars, houses, clothes, husbands, children, and the list goes on, but if we aren’t truly happy with whom we are, none of these “things “will satisfy us. Have you ever stopped and wondered who you really are? Stop right now and ask yourself, “Who am I”? Not your name or age, but deep down in your heart and soul, who are you? The answer to this question can be very difficult if you are stuck in the “gray area” of life. In order to be truly happy and content in your life, you have to understand and accept who you truly are.

You ask, “How do I figure out who I am”? It took me twenty five years to figure out who I am, and some days I still am not sure. Over the past few years I have endured what we as Christians call “trials.” Trials are classified as, “hardships” or”sufferings”, which Christians endure. Trust me; I have had my fair share. I have endured death, divorce, breakups, betray, and family conflict. Many times I wanted to give up, but right before hitting rock bottom, God took my hand and lead me down a different path. None of us are perfect, but changing my life is how I figured out who I am. I am a woman of God, a wife, strong, faithful, diligent, but most of all content.

Misery can physically, mentally and emotionally tear you down. Most misery comes from a “trial” or “hardship” we don’t know how to face. But the reason we can’t control these all comes down to confusion about who we are or what we believe. We can’t control the weather, other people’s relationships, family turning their back on you, or the economy crashing. However, we can control how we react. When you have a miserable person in your life don’t confront them, pray for them. Don’t accompany the source that breaks down most relationships and people.

Miserable people love others as company. The reason for this has to do with making their self feel better. They attack, lash out, are hateful, and disrespectful because it helps them release anger and frustration. In cases such as these, wash your hands clean of them. We have enough negativity in the world; ISIS, war, divorce, murder, suicide, we don’t need to feed any more of it.

Each and every one of us is given twenty four hours. Twenty-four. That’s not a lot.  Why would any of us want to spend it being miserable or being company to someone else’s misery? Choose to live fully the twenty- four hours you are given. Because the only thing in life that will run out, is time.


The Lord is king! He is robed in majesty. Indeed, the Lord is robed in majesty and armed with strength. The world stands firm and cannot be shaken. Psalm 93:1.

Published by Lacie

Lacie Ross is the director for the Miss Hahira Honeybee Pageant held annually in Hahira, Georgia. Among many titles, Lacie was Miss Georgia United States 2013 and Miss Georgia South 2013 where she went on to place in the top 15 at Miss Georgia USA. She has judged, directed, and competed in multiple pageants. Lacie even appeared on TLC’s “Here comes Honey Boo Boo” as a celebrity judge. Mrs. Ross is a graduate of Valdosta State University with a Bachelor of Business Administration and a Minor in Human Resources. She also holds an Associates in Science from Georgia Military College. Lacie is very active in the community where she has held positions as a L.A.M.P homeless shelter mentor, Second Harvest of South Georgia spokesperson, team member with the Georgia Special Olympics, ambassador for People Water, committee member for the Hahira Honeybee festival, among many others. She is currently on the board of directors and choreographer for the Miss Georgia South Pageant. Lacie is happily married to her husband, Nick, who she met on an airplane coming home from Miss United States. The Rosses have three beautiful children, Atticus, Ander, and Addleigh Elaine and reside in Highland, Michigan. A quote by Audrey Hepburn is one Mrs. Ross lives by “As you grow older, you will learn you have two hands. One for helping yourself, the other for helping others.”

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